Small talk about a common trap for newbies joining dance community.
Dancing brings people closer together. It's an amazing way to gain friends, to share something special with others, and to be part of an unusual community. However, at the beginning of this journey, it's quite easy to feel confused, or lost in your own emotions.
Just the physical contact with someone else may be overwhelming. In addition to physical contact, we start to work on the dance connection, and we exchange energy. We either let someone have control or we take it ourselves (depending on if you lead or follow) and just melt in time and space.
Many, many, many people (if not everyone) who started dancing journey fell into a state of confusion or so-called dance-crush. I think it's super important to tell about it to those who are just starting and those who are unsure if it's normal how they feel and what they experience.
1. It is normal to feel the excitement, butterflies in your stomach or goose-bumps if your partner has a good level, pays attention to your movement, connects with you on the emotional and physical level.
2. Don't panic. If you are single, often there is no drama, but if you are married or in another relationship, we tend to feel bad or guilty. This doesn't mean at all that you are falling in love on the dance-floor. Try to acknowledge how the dance in this particular moment or with this particular person makes you feel and be grateful. Moments like this give us the wow-effect and deserve appreciation.
3. Don't try to give it a bigger meaning than just an amazing dance. As humans, we give too much power to our thoughts which come and go as they wish. If you start falling into this rabbit hole and chase your spinning thought, in a second you start to imagine whole bright future with the person you just had 'dance of your life'.
4. The experience will help. With time and practice, you will start to see clearer the difference between great dance and so-called 'falling in love'. You will start to distance yourself from emotions on the dance floor that come and go, you will appreciate them but not mistake them with something else.
If we would be following this basic instincts and excitements, we would 'fall in love' with every 3rd, 10th or so dancer on the festival! Think of this as of the platonic love. You wouldn't usually get a divorce after watching Leonardo DiCaprio in Titanic and falling in love with his fine art. Dancing is an art and so much more.
Why and for who is it most difficult?
The wow-effect, exciting and enlightening is something that we should experience in our lives in many different situations, not only in connection with others but as well in the connection with nature, science, surrounding, art and mainly with ourselves. If in someone's life there were not too many wow's, and then it appears so strongly while dancing - we may give it a bigger meaning than we should.
There are couples that met on the dance floor, and I wish them all the best. It's a wonderful thing if you can discover a person that you want to share with not only dancing passion but as well many different areas of your life! However, we should think as well about all the rest, who wants to enjoy being a part of this dance world and at the same time stay grounded with their emotional life.
I hope you find it useful! See you on the dance floor!
Big thanks to Shaun Spiteri Photographer
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